Absolutely! I accept all critism because it will help me improve my writing. I love being able to look at my stories from the reader's point of view, simply because it is so different than my own.
However, 'flaming' - which is hateful, spiteful, and mean useless criticism designed to make the creative artist feel bad- is not useful. It is a type of cyber-bullying in my mind, and it is not tolerated.
So nice friendly critic does help me. I appreciate it. Alot.
Yes, but only when it comes from a point of knowledge, sensibility and genuine.
Some of it does; only that which goes beyond "I liked it, I didn't like it ".
Not always - depends on if they truly read the story, which doesn't always happen.
Depends. I like to read it carefully, think about it and then take it on board or throw it overboard. It is therefore slightly helpful.
Immensely! I belong to a writing group - without them, it would not have become the memoir it is now. It's hard to take the advice in the beginning, especially if it's personal. But, once you are past the ego, it's priceless help.
A lot, as I tend to see all the flaws and get to improve my work.
Most definitely. I have one or two close friends with whom I entrust early drafts for critique. More often than not they see things that I have missed that either require more polish or even deletion.
Nope nope nope! I pride myself off the heart that beats in my lyrical content. Once you start allowing other people to dictate the content of your material, you will then begin to over examining yourself. You will start to write in ways that you will have content that is all over the place. It Will be split and pasted together, because you’re so eager to please that when it’s read back your embarrassed to hear your own work.
Oh, goodness yes! The input I get from my writer's groups is invaluable. Sometimes I may not agree with it, but if one writer brought up a question, a future reader may as well. As someone once told me, "That's nice that you can explain what that meant to me here, but you're not going to be sitting next to a reader when she's reading it, are you?"
I have occasionally recieved feedback from magazine articles or articles published online and nothing is more thrilling. I wrote an article years ago about buying trucks suitable for towing horse trailers and some guy wrote to me and thanked me for it. He explained he was a big burly cowboy that knew a lot about horses, but nothing about horsepower and engines. He'd been too embarrassed to admit it to a car salesman, but after reading the article he went down and 'spoke the language' and got a new vehicle. To take something that I wrote, and have it help someone in such an insignificant manner made me so happy.
Another time an article I wrote was read by a long-lost friend and we were able to reconnect, just via a fluff piece I'd written.
I've only received one horrid piece of feedback and it just ate at me for weeks. It was about a comical road trip I had with a friend and this man (we'll call him Mr. Snark) just railed on the article, took it apart bit by bit and ended with "This is the most unamusing thing I've ever read. Quit writing. You're not funny." Oh, the angst that review caused me. Then I got another email from someone else who read it and she told me she laughed so hard she almost peed her pants. She signed her name. Mr. Snark did not. So I took her feedback as the correct one!
Only if it is complimentary.
It is always good to hear what they have to say because sometimes they find little things in the story that you would never see in a million years.