Have you ever "come out of a closet" of some sort? What challenges have you had to overcome?
That I'm not religious.
|Um, yeah... You could say that I've "come out of the closet"!
I'm gay, and I've been married to my husband since October, 2008. We both choose to live our lives completely "out" because we feel very strongly that we have nothing to be ashamed of. Nothing to hide. It's another person's own issue if they aren't comfortable with us because we're gay. Above all else, we need to be true to ourselves and proud of who we are. Having said that, I feel it's important to clarify that niether one of us feels the need to act like a 'Mary fairy' or 'swishy dish' just because we're confident and proud. Sure, we both have occasional less-than-macho moments, but we're comfortable with that. We're comfortable with ourselves. However, it's the 'Mary fairies' and the 'swishy dishes' out there, the ones who seem to be forcing an unnatural, over-the-top flamboyant persona just to show the world "they're here, they're queer, and you had better get used to it!" that we're really not so comfortable with. I personally feel as though that tactic does more harm than good. More specifically, I'm afraid that it just repels and alienates people. Certainly not a good way to improve relations between the HOMO's and the HETERO's. :(
Regarding my official "sexuality reveal", I didn't have the luxury of deciding when and how to "come out". I was KICKED OUT of the closet waaay before I was ready, by someone who I'd previously thought was a good friend. That supposed friend wound up telling my mom about my then current boyfriend, and all hell broke loose as a result! I mean, it was a really BAD scene! My mom was angry and screaming, my dad told me that he couldn't possibly love a gay son, my older brother tried to BEAT the "gay" OUT of me and all of it transpired in about 15 minutes. You can imagine the days that followed...
But I am happy to say that my dad DID eventually come around, and he explained that he DID love me, but was scared thinking of how much harder my life would be due to society's prejudice and lack of acceptance. Plus, I think it was about the same time A.I.D.S. was first being talked about in the news, and that was some pretty scary sh*t back then! Anyway, he died of cancer soon after that, so I'm very thankful that my dad had the courage and integrity to apologize, then share his true feelings of love and concern. That, to me, was a gift because I know if I hadn't received that from him, I would be struggling with some major issues now! But I did, so I'm not, and I'm at peace with my father.
My relationship with my mom has been turbulent through the years, but I'm also happy to say that, "We've come a long way, baby!" She actually attended (and was part of) our wedding, in 2008. It was fantastic! She looked relaxed, happy, and happy FOR us! Something I wasn't sure I'd ever see. And currently, my mom and I are getting along better than ever before!
The older brother that I mentioned is an entirely different story that does not have a happy ending. He is evidently so deeply rooted in his Christian faith that he cannot and/or will not accept my homosexuality. We haven't spoken in years, but not due to a lack of effort on my part. In fact, he and his wife (and adult kids) were all invited to our wedding, but they chose NOT to come. They used some lame excuse about a prior engagement, and it was something that they go to all the time. Then they didn't even have the decency to send us a card, much less a gift! But I'm not stupid. I know what their actions are really saying... They do not approve of same-sex marriage. I'm positive through and through that my brother and his wife voted YES on both California propositions 22 and 8 - the ones that have outlawed same-sex marriages in order to "protect the sanctity of marriage". But guess what? We got married anyway! And legally, too! We were one of the 18,000 same-sex couples that managed to wed during the narrow window of opportunity that presented itself for a few months before Prop H8 was passed and slammed that window shut again.
I don't EVER want to speak to my brother again, but I would love to know HOW exactly my marriage has negatively affected his? I certainly haven't heard mention of ANYTHING bad happening. But according to his "beliefs", since I've been married to my husband for almost 2 years, the sanctity of dear old brother's marriage should have been soiled and desecrated to the point of divorce, long before now!
I am not very clear about this question.My life , on the whole, was smooth.Not much of turbulence, tragedy, absolute happiness or utter melancholy. If I had some dejections about my work life, it was my own creation. But I did not realise it then. However, there were some difficult periods in my life.I could get over such situations, though with suffering.
I treat those lessons as steps in the ladder of my life.I do not become highly emotional or extremely angry over situatios or people.
Yes, I am gay. lol I had to come out the closet to my family. Fortunately I have the best family so they support me and my decisions. I just wished I had told my mother before her passing.
For me as a man to admit to being sexually abused as a child was very hard. I was afraid I would be labeled as gay. After many years of struggle I finally came to the conclusion that since I am not sexuall attracted to males I have no reason to try and hide my past.
I was terribly shy....It wasn't until I was about 40 when I realized that it doesn't matter anymore.
Come out of a closet with a deep secret of who you are? Well, I think I'm still getting to that after I figure out who I am.
When I was a child and in pre-teen I loved to write but no one believed that I was able to do it properly... or be so determinate to study so hard to be a writer... I broke my back for yrs and yrs... to study and become it...cos you can own imagination in my art but you need technique and method too as a clear way to narrate facts. I came out of closet cos no one believes usually I own a big force of volition if I care about something or someone but I do... and I fight. I should prob. be more bit... to convince humans, cos thats the style to look smart nowadays, but I'm not that kind.
of some sorts no I have not and if I did I don't recall there must had been no challenges to face.
I'll be honest,I have not came out of a closet of any sort.Though,eventually I need to.I'm pansexual,my parents don't know that.The only person in my family that knows is my little brother.Isn't it sad that I have more trust in him than my brother?
I went to school as a straight guy for Halloween sophomore year.
and was told by my mom that there isn't anything I could ever do or be that would stop her from loving me
And by the grace of those who came before me I could come out at 14
and I am grateful for it
yes, iv been called names,got in fights,& lost alot of friends:(
When I had to confront my family about my father and some dont speak to me but my children love me and thats all that matters
I think that "coming out of the closet" can mean different things to different people. For me, it was coming clean and telling my family that I was a cutter. It was very difficult for me because I had done it for so long and my family didn't approve and thought I was doing it for attention which really wasn't the truth. I did it because I wanted the pain that I was in on the inside to go away somehow, so I would cause pain on the outside.
I did when I told my mom and sister that I was an Atheist and member of the Church of Satan. They don't know that I'm bi though.
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